Sunday, December 11, 2011

tap tap tapori

Hello blogdosts! Yet another party weekend. Attended my friend's 40th B'day celebrations! The one word to describe this event is JHAKHAAS!!! Everything little thing from lights, to music,to drinks, to food, to dessert was so well planned by her dear husband. The cake was so delicious. Strawberry-Vanilla. It was so big, it could feed the entire city of Ashburn. Well we partied till the wee hours of the morning. Still recovering. It was   a nice Sunday, weather wise, here in VA. Did not do much. Lazed around the house.

For me, the word Jhakhass is synonymous with actor, Anil Kapoor. He made it famous during the 1980's with his distinct style of acting called the Tapoori style. Tapori is a language which is the unique slang of Hindi. Although, it is primarily spoken in Mumbai, thanks to many Bollywood movies like Josh, Munnabhai, etc. this Mumbaiyya language has become popular in other parts of India as well. The word Tapori means rowdy. The Tapori figure is a male persona part form the streets and part the social conscience of the neighborhood/community. He lacks a home but is looking for a family. He uses style and gestures to voice the problems of his community. Sometimes he gets involved in petty crimes to protect his fellow people. Taporis also have an unique style of dressing. This comprises of extremely casual clothes. Rolled up sleeves and pants. A bandana around the head, neck and wrist. Usually, the outfit is made of very loud colors like Red, Orange and Yellow. The idea is to mismatch to the maximum extent possible. I like listening to it as it is has a lot of humor. Only close friends can make this language believable. To me the language portrays the close bond among friends that grew up in similar circumstances. However, this language is looked down upon by educated people in India as it is made up of many indecent words. Some examples of this language are:

  • You'll be surprised - Ekdam "hill" jayega tu
  • I am leaving this place - Chal apun "kaltee" marta hai
  • Don't make a fool of others - Dekh, tu "shendi" mat laga sabko
  • Get the hell out, you oversmart fool! - Chal shaane, "hawa" aane de
  • Do you drink daily? - Tu kya roz "full to" hota hai?
  • What a babe! - Kya "jhakass item" hai yaar!
  • Don't bore me - Jyaada "pakaa" mat be tu

Ok, then friends, hope you have fun with this language. "tab tak main yahaan se kaltee marti hun".

Monday, December 05, 2011

Surrogacy - Is it the best way?

Namaste friends. time! I know! I was busy partying and shopping. Thanksgiving sales are so tempting. I was at a girls sleepover party last Saturday. It was so much fun. We were 8 girls talking and giggling like school girls. Just the type of fun that I enjoy. On Sunday, I attended a Satyanarayan Pooja. A Sunday well spent. Learnt so much that day. So, Dev Anand is no more. Aamir Khan and Kiran Rao had a baby boy. Surrogacy- first time in Bollywood. India is moving along. Nice to know.

Why would someone volunteer to be a surrogate mother? I can think of only one reason. Desperate need for money. Only an unselfish person who is really very caring can think of such a generous cause. I would definitely not be able to any such thing. Being a surrogate mother means taking on a huge responsibility for someone else's life. After nine months of carrying the baby and being so close to it, it would be very hard to part with this creation. Granted the seeds would be donated, but for all practical purposes the baby would be that of the lady who delivered the child. I think a nobler cause would be to adopt an orphan child. I can understand how a woman feels complete when she has her own baby. But giving a home to a child who really needs it could be a better option. What difference would it make? Anyway, the baby is being delivered by someone else and there is no physical connection when you choose the surrogate path. There is also the risk that the mother to be could change her mind at the last minute. Also, what if the mom to be develops some medical conditions along the way and the baby has to be aborted?  I am sure there are legal contracts that cover these issues. Ultimately, it's not anybody's business what parents choose as their BEST option. Everyone has his or her own right. Whatever makes them happy. For me personally, adoption would be a better choice. Congratulations to Aamir Khan and Kiran Rao. He has shed light on an important cause. The perfectionist has done it again!