Somebody has to say it

Fabulous weekend folks! Get together on Saturday was a lot of fun with great food. The menu was mouth watering. Just to give you an idea, we had vada pav, fish cutlets, stuffed mirchi and corn salad as appetizers. For main course, we had fish biryani, chicken sukka, paneer ghee roast, dal fry, spinach patrode, etc. and for dessert we had tiramisu and date halwa. How could I resist such delicious food? Oh well, life is too short. Gotta live it up a little. Watched the Oscars last night. The highlight was on the red carpet when comedian Sacha Baron Cohen spilt the ashes on Ryan Seacrest's designer suit. I like Angelina Jolie's (she has some legs!) and Gweneth Paltrow's dresses. The others were forgetful. One cute little thing happened today. I had lost my fav. pearl earning, that I wear 90% of the time, 3 months ago. I was feeling bad about it for along time, as it was not easily replaceable. Guess what? I found it today in the office, in a meeting room. Awwww... I am going to wear it tomorrow.
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So, I went shopping with a girlfriend some days ago and I noticed that there was something stuck between her teeth. Now, we were going to meet some other friends soon. Instead of her being embarrassed later, I thought it was best to tell my friend right then to check her teeth. She quietly corrected the situation by checking in the mirror. I was not sure if she liked me pointing this out to her or not. I know these kinds of things are normal and can happen to anyone. If I was in her shoes, my friend would have never pointed it out to me. However, I don't know if everyone can be as nice as my friend. I always thought of myself as a person, who said what everybody else was thinking and that I was appreciated for it. I have always heard people say, "we love you for what you are", "you are so frank and that is your best quality" and such things. I always believed all of these people till recently. One friend told me openly that she did not like me for being so honest and it hurt her deeply. She now keeps her distance from me. This came as a shock to me. People were just tolerating me. They were avoiding any kind of argument with me.
     My question: How can you not be bothered about unpleasantness around you?  Your argument maybe if that it is not your business, then it doesn't bother you. Well, while that is a safe and diplomatic approach, SOMEBODY HAS TO SAY IT! The example that I have here is a personal one. But what if the issues were bigger and it had bigger positive effects? Would you still keep quiet? This is where I understand that individually personalities come into picture. No two people are alike. How many times will you tell your "fat" friend that she has not put on weight, or that you really like her "bad" hairstyle?  How long are you prepared to be fake? The answer to this question from my experience dear friends is... ready? drum rolls ... FOREVER!!! Because no explanations like "I have always been like this", "you know I say things and I don't mean it", "I was just joking", etc.  after you have told them what you "really" felt, will heal wounded hearts.